More from: Your Heart’s Desire

Originally posted on Blogger 22 August 2011

The good news is that you don’t need anyone’s approval to succeed.

What you do need is to protect yourself from
demoralizing,

dream-damaging,

disapproving saboteurs.

Sonia Choquette – Your Heart’s Desire
Page 86

My thoughts:

I found it interesting that in Focusing Ann doesn’t follow the usual theory of our internal saboteurs, instead welcoming them because they are the part that gets to direct our actions, something that really needs time spent with it. To push our own saboteurs aside is to encourage the behaviour to continue. I found this aspect of Focusing thoroughly enlightening.

This post was more about our own success, playing our cards close to our chest. Working out who is in your cheer squad and who isn’t. The dear friends who are not in our cheer squads may be wonderful for other aspects of our lives, but cheering us on is not one of them. They may be great once the work is done, but when our dreams are fragile and vulnerable they can, with good intentions, stomp all over them.

It is amazing how much like sponges we are as children. We take on others sabotage actions as correct and will hold fast to that, even when we get that it only does us harm. If dreaming results in danger then no wonder we don’t dream.

Today I don’t talk about my saboteurs as I look at them from a Focusing perspective and welcome them when they become known. But I do recognise that others can say well intentioned things that could amount to sabotage, if I took them as such. If it does set something off in me then that is my cue to spend some time with it.

Although I must add the disclaimer that I am human so sometimes it takes a while when someone does or says something that sets me off 🙂